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* Mariam's father disowns her as soon as he finds out she is pregnant out of wedlock (not ok in their culture)
* "Learn this now and learn it well , my daughter: Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always. You remember that, Mariam." (7)
* Nana and Mariam live in a very secluded shack removed from society's glares and care
* Nana was not helped by a midwife or anybody else in her birth of Mariam, in fact, she was left basically alone to do it all by herself even though the others were well aware of the fact she was in labor (Nana's story)
* Although not by any means treated anywhere close to the way that Jalil's wives are, he does take care of Nana and Mariam to a degree (takes some responsibility)
* "What's the sense in schooling a girl like you? It's like shining a spittoon. And you'll learn nothing of value in those schools. There is only one, only one skill a woman like you and me needs in life, and they don't teach it in school. [...] Only one skill. And it's this: tahamul. Endure. [...] It's our lot of life, Mariam. Women like us. We endure. It's all we have." (18-19)
* Despite her hatred and rants toward Jalil, Nana acts docile and controlled when he is around. She serves him tea, smiles (although uncomfortably), and is very mannerly, washes her hair, brushes her teeth and wears her best hijab when he is around. Does not look at him directly and does not curse (22)
* Summer 1973 Afghanistan becomes a republic rather than a monarchy when Daoud Khan overthrows King Zahir Shah in a bloodless coup. Daoud becomes president (socialists may have helped him)
* For 15th birthday, Mariam asks to be taken to her father's theater and to watch Pinocchio with him (in public)
* When Mariam arrives at the house she is told Jalil is not there, and that it was unknown when he would be back, she decides to wait (not allowed in house though, in fact, the chauffer has specifically been instructed not to let her in).
* Nana hanged herself while Mariam was away, and Mariam sees it as she is brought back to the kolba by Jalil's driver (Mariam feels responsible for it)
* The maid (gurl who opened the door for them) is young gurl with tatoo under her lip (signifigance of tattoo?)
* Mariam taken to be with her father, but no longer wants to be with him, understands his past incencerity for the first time (everything changes, including her regard and loyalty to her father)
* "'You could eat downstairs with the rest of us,' he said, but without much conviction. He understood a little too readily when Mariam said she preferred to eat alone." (40)
* Mariam feels depressed, lonely, feeling of not belonging (not in Jalil's house or world, or anywhere else)
* Niloufar (Jalil's youngest daughter; 8) very friendly towards Mariam, plays her music, invites to teach her how to do a headstand
* Meeting between Mariam, wives and Jalil: fake pleasentries, women talk while Jalil sits there silently, they inform her that she has a suitor (Rasheed) who lies in Kabul (far away from Jalil and his family), 45 years old, shoemaker
Observations/Overview
One can see some of the difficulties that women face in Afghanistan within the first 50 pages of the novel. Nana was basically ostracised and abandoned by her family after she gave birth to an illegitimate child. She was sent to the outer echelons of society, and forced into a life of shame and bitterness. Although Jalil has done some to help Nana and Mariam, it is more out of duty than anything else. Nobody respects her, not even herself. At one point she wishes that her father would have done the "honorable thing," which to most Westerners would not be considered honorable in the slightest, and killed her after she was caught having sexual relations with a man out of wedlock. This practice is something that is, and particularly was, actually done in such cases. It was not only considered ok and justifiable to drown one's daughter for such an offense, but it was considered by many to be the right thing to do. Nana brought shame on to her family, and is forced to face the consequences. Interestingly, virtually nothing happens to Jalil. Yes, his wives and family are upset, he really has no consequences other than having to provide some form of life for Nana and Mariam. Considering the fact that he is extremely wealthy, as can be noted by the description of his house and the number of wives he has, the modest living that he provides for Nana and Mariam is not much of a consequence at all. It most definitely does not pose any financial difficulty whatsoever. Society really does not care about what he has done, and as long as the woman and child are not around his indecency is quickly forgiven and forgotten. Not only does Mariam have to deal with the difficulties of being a woman in Afghanistan during the mid to upper 1900's, but she also is privy to extra hardship due to the fact that she was born out of wedlock and her parents were never married. Nana tries to make this clear to her from the beginning, and does not encourage Mariam's dreams of love and happiness and an easy life. For her, life is a thing that must be taken one step at a time and worked though, not something of wonder and fortune. It is clear that Mariam is not considered to be a "good woman" due to her background, and that she should feel "lucky" to find such a lucky match for marriage. She does not want to get married, but as a woman does not have a choice and is basically given away by her father, much like property would be. Women are considered to be property of their husbands or fathers (men), and have very few options with regards to exercising their own rights and doing what they want. Their destiny tends to be controlled by the men in their lives. This is both a source of frustration and resentment for Mariam and her mother. However, Mariam is young, and just beginning to understand how the world works, so it is more of a source of hurt at the moment.
As for how women are portrayed thus far in the novel... Most definitely as property. All of the women, even the wives of Jalil, come off as very emotional and unable to control their emotions. Women are very reliant on men thus far, for happiness as well as in order to get through daily routine. Most of the women this far in the novel are far from nice, and are actually quite rude. This includes Nana and the wives of Jalil. Mariam is still kind of too young to really include in this category. She is still young and a dreamer. She has yet to really face the real world and to understand the social and physical obligations of a woman in Afghani society.